So are there times when you should "burn your bridges" to move on? And maybe not "burn bridges," but just let them decay and fall down behind you?
When to Burn a Bridge
Burning a bridge and leaving a relationship, whether personal or professional, may have a negative affect on your life. What if you want to cross that bridge again? What if you might need something from that person? When put that way, NOT burning a bridge sounds sort of needy and selfish. Not always the case but sometimes.
Burning a bridge just to do it and to cause destruction is not a good idea. It is based merely on emotional outputs and without thought, but the act of lighting that match and considering the results of destroying the path to your past may not always be a bad thing.
An unknown author wrote that burning bridges is not a bad thing because, "It prevents you from going back to a place you never should have been to begin with..."
1. Exes. I know some people who can remain "friends" with their ex. I could often be civil and get along without awkwardness if we saw each other in public, but I really didn't want to hear about his new lover and how he had never had such great passion with anyone else (guess that included me), that great trip to Japan he took (that we were supposed to go on together), or how he just bought a new sports car (while I was barely making rent). Holding on was not healthy for me and remaining "friends" and talking about trips, lovers, etc, In other words, things that friends would talk about, was making me sad and resentful. I needed to burn that bridge so I could heal and move forward with a new relationship.
2. Friends. Like lovers, friends can grow apart. We are constantly changing and sometimes the roads we are traveling don't connect anymore. I have people who I was great friends with in high school, but I went one way by going on to college, getting married, having children, etc and they went another way. There was nothing wrong with either of our choices. They were just different. We no longer had anything in common and I even had some friends who were resentful about my success and happiness. I especially needed to sever ties with those "friends."
3. Jobs. If a job is not making you happy and challenging you, it may be time to move on. A job may also be holding you back from reaching your true potential. I am not saying to leave in a spray of destruction, but some jobs just are not worth the brain damage to try to leave on good terms. Sometimes the mere fact that you are leaving can result in bad feelings by your employer. Moving on can result in a job that makes you happier, challenges your mind, and results is greater self-esteem.
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us." - Alexander Graham Bell